Relationship, Couples & Sex Therapy in San Diego
Relationship Therapist & Couples Therapist in San Diego | Online Therapy Across California
Work with Dr. Nikki Nolet, PhD, LMFT, CST — an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and relationship expert helping individuals and couples improve communication, rebuild intimacy, navigate conflict, and create stronger emotional and sexual connection. In-person therapy in Del Mar and Carlsbad, and online therapy throughout California.
Relationships Redefined is a relationship therapy practice founded by Dr. Nikki Nolet, PhD, LMFT, CST, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. We specialize in couples therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, premarital counseling, and individual relationship therapy. We serve clients in San Diego, Del Mar, Carlsbad, Encinitas, La Jolla, North County San Diego, and online throughout California.
Healthy relationships rarely happen by accident.
They grow through understanding, communication, emotional safety, and intentional effort.
At Relationships Redefined, therapy focuses on helping individuals and couples better understand the patterns shaping their relationships, so they can communicate more clearly, reconnect emotionally, and build deeper intimacy.
If you’re ready to better understand the patterns shaping your relationships, therapy can help
Hi! I’m Dr. Nikki Nolet, Sex Therapist and Couples Expert in San Diego
Sex, intimacy, conflict, communication and love - I’m here for it all. Working with couples and individuals in relationships is my whole focus in my practice.
What does that mean for you?
It means that when you work with me, you are working with a relationship therapist and certified sex therapist who is highly trained and effective in working with couples and individuals who want to navigate conflict, prepare for marriage, rebuild intimacy, or simply want to understand their relationship patterns more deeply.
I offer couples counseling, sex therapy for couples, men and women, and individual relationship therapy as well as pre-marital counseling.
Relationships Redefined offers in-person therapy in Del Mar and Carlsbad, serving clients throughout San Diego County, including Encinitas, La Jolla, Solana Beach, Oceanside, Vista, San Marcos, and North County San Diego. Online relationship therapy, couples therapy, and sex therapy are available throughout California.
Your Relationship Is Stressing You Out
You want your relationship to work but you are scared that if you really open up and show your true emotions, that you’ll end up being rejected. You’ve had painful relationships in the past and really don’t want to repeat those patterns again. You wonder if you are capable of having that deep connection that you long for and you worry that you might spend your life in relationships that just feel unfulfilling and empty.
You’ve tried to stop repeating patterns from the past, trying new ways of saying something or approaching a conflict, but it feels like no matter what you try, you miss each other and the conflict simply amps up more. You feel vulnerable but you also feel emotionally disconnected from each other.
You need more intimacy, physically and emotionally, you just don’t know how to get there. You’ve almost forgotten how juicy and sexy it feels to be desired, completely connected and confident in your relationship.
Learn how relationship therapy or couples counseling can make a difference in how you feel, how you connect, and how you love.
Why Work With Dr. Nikki Nolet?
Dr. Nikki Nolet, PhD, LMFT, CST is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist specializing in relationship therapy, couples therapy, and sex therapy. Her work integrates advanced training in couples therapy, sex therapy, attachment, communication patterns, desire discrepancy, and intimacy repair.
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
PhD-level clinician
Specialized focus on couples, sex, intimacy, and relationship patterns
In-person therapy in San Diego County and online therapy throughout California
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Therapy Services in San Diego & Online Throughout California
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Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in San Diego
For couples stuck in conflict, emotional distance, communication breakdowns, intimacy concerns, or repeated arguments that never fully resolve.
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Sex Therapy in San Diego & California
For couples stuck in conflict, emotional distance, communication breakdowns, intimacy concerns, or repeated arguments that never fully resolve.
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Individual Relationship Therapy
For people who want to understand relationship patterns, attachment wounds, dating fatigue, people-pleasing, anxiety in relationships, or repeated painful dynamics.
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Premarital Counseling in San Diego
For couples preparing for marriage who want to strengthen communication, clarify expectations, discuss sex, finances, conflict, family dynamics, and long-term compatibility.
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Imago Couples Workshops
For couples who want a structured, educational, and experiential way to learn communication tools, deepen connection, and understand their relationship patterns outside of traditional weekly therapy.
Couples workshops are a strong fit for partners who want to be proactive, reconnect, learn practical tools, or dedicate focused time to the relationship in a supportive group or workshop setting.
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Couples Intensives Online or In San Diego
For couples who need more focused support than a weekly 50-minute session can provide. Couples intensives create protected time to slow down difficult patterns, work through emotional disconnection, address conflict or intimacy concerns, and move more deeply into repair.
Couples intensives may be especially helpful when partners feel stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected, unsure how to move forward, or unable to make enough progress in shorter sessions.
Want to know what relationship therapy can impact?
Couples Often Wait Too Long to Get Help
Many couples reach out only after years of conflict, disconnection, resentment, or avoidance. Therapy gives you a structured space to slow the pattern down, understand what keeps repeating, and learn how to communicate in a way that creates more safety, clarity, and connection.
National Divorce Rates
Sadly, most couples may struggle and endure pain in their relationship for approximately 6 years before reaching out for help.
Greater success rate against divorce
Couples Therapy & Premarital Therapy gives you a greater chance to fend against divorce.
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Learn how to connect and communicate what you like, desire, what excites and entices play.
Your relationship does not have to be one of these statistics. That’s why I created Relationships Redefined. Click the video below to learn more about how we can work together to help you create the relationship you desire.
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Wondering if Relationship Therapy is right for you?
We Help With:
Communication & Conflict
Recurring arguments, emotional shutdown, defensiveness, resentment, repair after conflict, difficulty expressing needs.
Sex & Intimacy Concerns
Low desire, mismatched libido, erectile difficulties, orgasm concerns, painful sex, sexual shame, anxiety around intimacy, lack of sexual confidence.
Trust & Relationship Repair
Infidelity, betrayal, mistrust, emotional disconnection, feeling like roommates, rebuilding safety after rupture.
Individual Relationship Patterns
Relationship anxiety, dating fatigue, people-pleasing, choosing unavailable partners, feeling “not good enough,” fear of rejection, old patterns that keep repeating.
Premarital & Life Transitions
Preparing for marriage, conversations about sex, finances, family expectations, religious or cultural differences, and future planning.
As a relationship and sex therapist in San Diego, CA, I help people uncover what is stopping them from truly connecting in their relationships and feeling wanted, desired, and connected with their partners or themselves.
I won’t just sit and nod my head- We will collaborate to figure out what really makes sense for you. There are no cookie-cutter solutions here- because life is never that simple. BUT…there are so many tools and strategies to support you AND I bring my intuition with years of experience to help direct you to the right thing at the right time so you can get where you want.
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You don’t want to work with just any therapist, you need someone who really is skilled at working with relationships, sex, intimacy and communication. I understand that you are busy, and that finding time in your day can be difficult to find the right therapist. Check out more about how you can find a dynamic therapist and know that the therapist you choose is perfect for your relationship
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FAQs
What type of therapist should I see for relationship problems?
A relationship therapist can help individuals and couples understand the patterns affecting communication, trust, intimacy, conflict, and emotional connection. At Relationships Redefined, therapy focuses on both the emotional and relational dynamics that keep people stuck.
Can sex therapy help if we have mismatched libidos?
Yes. Desire discrepancy is one of the most common reasons couples seek sex therapy. Therapy helps couples understand what is suppressing desire, reduce pressure and shame, and rebuild intimacy in a more collaborative way.
How do I know whether to book a 50-minute or 90-minute session?
Couples often benefit from 90-minute sessions because there is more time to slow down conflict, practice communication tools, and work through emotional or intimacy patterns without feeling rushed.
Do we need to be in crisis to attend a couples workshop?
Do you offer couples therapy in San Diego?
Yes. Relationships Redefined offers couples therapy in San Diego, with in-person sessions in Del Mar and Carlsbad and online couples therapy throughout California.
Do you work with individuals or only couples?
At Relationships Redefined, we work with both individuals and couples. Individual relationship therapy can help with relationship anxiety, dating patterns, emotional avoidance, people-pleasing, sexual confidence, and understanding repeated relationship dynamics.
What is the difference between couples therapy and a couples workshop?
Couples therapy is typically ongoing and personalized to the specific dynamics, history, and concerns of one couple. A couples workshop is usually more structured and educational, giving couples tools for communication, connection, and repair in a focused format.
What is the difference between couples therapy and sex therapy?
Couples therapy focuses on communication, conflict, trust, emotional connection, and relationship patterns. Sex therapy focuses on intimacy, desire, sexual functioning, shame, anxiety, pleasure, and physical or emotional barriers to sexual connection. Many couples benefit from both.can make all the difference.
Do you offer online therapy in California?
Yes. Online therapy is available throughout California for relationship therapy, couples therapy, premarital counseling, and sex therapy.
Who is a couples intensive best for?
A couples intensive may be helpful for couples who feel stuck, disconnected, overwhelmed by recurring conflict, or unable to make enough progress in shorter weekly sessions. Intensives create more time to slow down the pattern and work more deeply.
Online Therapy in San Diego and Throughout California
No more having to worry about commuting, traffic and finding parking – we’ve got you covered with online therapy in California.
We provide relationship therapy to individuals and couples throughout San Diego, including Carlsbad, Encinitas, Del Mar, La Jolla, and across California through secure online therapy sessions.